I am free here in this space to share with you a little more about
myself, the Author of The Way Out Book, but only so far as is
Because this Book is NOT a book about ME, yet it has EVERYTHING to
do about ME, but having more to do with the ME who is a
Soldier of the Light.
A soldiers experience, and this is how I won the war. . .
Though I may well have won the Battle of the War
Within, this does not prevent the occasional skirmish along my Boundary
Lines. There is ALWAYS so much
more to Learn and Understand. There
is ALWAYS room for improvement.
These occasional moments of pushing back also serves me well by
preventing complacency, and it also reminds myself once again of just what
it is exactly that I am here on this Earth to do and that is to Learn,
Grow and Evolve. Nothing else
To remember that everyone else out there is feeling pain, discomfort and
going through something in any given moment in time, just like I am.
Oh yes, and the crashing realization that I am not the center of
anyone elses Universe but my own. It
is easy to forget this, and to forget that everyone else is truly doing
the best they can with what they know how to do and with the information
that they are given just like me, and just like you.
Understanding this enabled me to forgive myself for all the bad
things I have done and experienced in the past.
In the Past is the key phrase.
Self condemnation just loves to hold on tight to the memories of
these experiences, just to make sure we still hate ourselves for not
having done this or that, or simply because we believe we should
have known what to do but didnt etc etc.
The guilt we dump on ourselves is phenomenal.
So I tell myself to go back to that moment in time where the
bad experience occurred, and take a closer look.
The person I have become today would most certainly have chosen
very differently in that experience simply because I now KNOW so much
more. Back then, with such a
limited understanding of myself and the world, I more often than not made
very bad to terrible choices for myself.
So why continue to punish myself for something that I did not have
the necessary skills to deal with at that time?
But, whatever your past bad thing might be, remember that at that
point in time you did not know any better, and if you did know you would
have done it. If presented with that same experience today I would most
certainly respond differently, because now I DO know better.
I must allow everyone else in my present and my past the benefit of
the same. The benefit of
growth and change. I am not
the same person I was back then or even yesterday.
Life is a Live & Learn sort of world you know.
Its ALL about screwing up, making mistakes, falling. . .
Why? So we can learn,
understand it and get right back up and keep moving forward.
The Sin is not in falling; its in not getting up.
forgive another their error in hope that they will forgive me mine.
I discovered also that behind ALL extreme behaviors there is someone who
is suffering the most pain. Suppressing
the most pain. Extreme
behavior is the distortion created when pain is denied, suppressed and
Observe also the quiet folk. Do
not be fooled. Just beneath
the surface of this passive exterior, lies a dormant volcanic eruption of
rage. Again, a result of more
suppression and denial. Oh,
we Humans are incredible creatures to study dont you think?
And it is here that Id like to share with you a few overall words of
encouragement and tips that have helped ME push through to the other side
of my darkest hours, in hope that they will inspire and encourage another
to hold on and push through the other side of their own personal darkness.
I also do not wish to offend anyone who is quite happy with their
religion of choice, for I do not want you to misunderstand me when I
speak of religion. We
all must believe in something greater than ourselves.
Its really a case of whatever works for us individually.
There is no right or wrong way.
I am merely here to describe to you ANOTHER way.
What I really love about THIS way, is the discovery that our Creator is a
pretty cool dude. THIS way
never threatens me with guilt. There
are NO opinions, NO judgments, just incredible encouragement.
THIS way never makes me feel bad about myself but instead teaches
me with repetition about my True Magnificence whilst discovering my full
Creative Potential. THIS way is gentle. THIS way to me feels comfortable,
like snuggling into a big ball of fluffy cotton wool. Most importantly,
THIS way evolves results.
Through my passionate desire to become whole and to understand myself, I
have in actual fact stumbled upon primal psychology.
The very word psychology means study of the Spirit.
I began to understand the psyche and all of its workings and
functions. To understand means
to be Enlightened. The more I
allowed the exploration, the more I understood, allowing in turn more
movement forward toward Enlightenment.
For those of you who may perhaps feel a jarring or a balking at reading
this book because you may not feel comfortable with it having a
spiritual connotation, then may I suggest an approach with the
curiosity to understand more about your psyche and how it works and
functions? It is truly
Before we can do anything at all, we must learn to be self disciplined
enough to be totally honest with ourselves.
Why bother doing this if we are not going to do what it takes?
Dont do this then. Truly.
Remember that the more effort we put into being courageous and
changing and growing, the greater the changes will be that will reflect
back to us in our worlds. Why
would I expect much to change in my world if I am too scared or more
likely too lazy to apply myself 100%?
When I only put in a little bit of effort, then my outside world
will reflect back to me only a little bit of change.
Hardly worth it really.
No one is here MAKING you be honest with yourself.
It is purely YOUR choice if you wish to be so and in doing so you
will have chosen the correct key that will unlock the first big chunky
door that allows you through to the Awakenings that stimulate and
stir your senses, almost as if inducing Self Awareness involuntarily.
All by choosing to be honest with ourselves?
This is a struggle at first and for seemingly forever, but we do give up
and give in to ourselves eventually. Be
patient. Be consistent.
Remember that there is no race to Enlightenment, and that there is no
God/Creator/Thing that is holding a stopwatch to time us and our pace of
growing and evolving to the finish line, as there is NO finish line as
such. We all choose to grow
and evolve at the pace of our choosing, and we always have the power to
pick up the pace at any time.
Remember that there is no there that we seem to feel that we HAVE
to get to. Its all about
the Journey there. So
Relax, Observe & Enjoy the ride of the un-raveling process.
Wait until you get a glimpse of your True Magnificence. . . .Ooh la
After all, we ARE our Journey.
the end of the day,
I remind myself often,
there is only so much of this world,
I can fit in my coffin.
When I wrote those above words they truly blew me
away. How powerful are they?
What impact. They
slammed into my psyche, grounded me to the Earth and centered me firmly in
the here and now with a potent reality check.
I felt an incredible sense of weight lifting off me (stress).
AM IN THIS WORLD, NOT OF IT.
Wow, I finally got it! I
finally Understood totally even though I have known it a long time.
I cannot take ANYTHING from this world with me when I die.
Now, REALLY think about that one.
I cant even take my big toe nail with me!
So what is there left then? Oh,
there is my
Spirit, my Soul. Oh yes, this
is what is left that goes with me. This
is the ONLY thing I can take with me.
That being so, means that my ONLY true focus of attention should, at all
times, be on my Spirit, my Soul and my Middle.
This realization assisted me to fully Understand the Truth about Letting
Go. It severed my last threads
of any attachments to people, places and things.
Things are lovely to look at and to enjoy, but if they were
to be gone tomorrow I would feel no loss.
By achieving the experience of having no attachments, I also
achieve the experience of feeling no pain or sense of loss.
Things are just things.
This takes away my thinking about what I feel I need
and the stress of trying to make it happen, and also the big down
when I dont get it.
I didnt get it because it was not something that was True for me and
it was only my mind running and ruining my world.
These ups and downs are purely of our own making.
will NEVER miss out on what is mine.
Those anxieties and fears drip away when I trust that no matter what
things might look like, good or bad, it is all meant to be for whatever
reasons. Just because my mind
(fear) DEMANDS that I MUST have something, does not mean that it is
actually meant to be mine. We
must let go of the control we mistakenly think we have over the Universe.
Always be prepared, because things can change in any given moment.
Remember to ALWAYS question.
Whatever it is, if you are unsure, QUESTION it.
Question everything. Question
everything that I am saying. Never
take anything as true for you until you have questioned it.
We learn by questioning and asking questions.
We then learn the difference between answers that are True and
those that are not. Again,
this is how we learn.
This brings us back to the most important question of all that we must
state of health is my Spirit in right now?
If our Spirit is the going to be the only thing we can take with us, we
better hope it is in good shape then. . . ..
And so it is here that I focus my attention.
My undivided attention and focus at all times is on my Spirit and
Brenda Joy Nimwegen.
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